CHH Personal Ads, 6/1

Singles from NYC, Aurora, Chicago and Minneapolis

This is the second issue of CHH personals ads! If you’d like to be considered for the next round, you can read the instructions here, although if you’ve already submitted, rest assured you could still be featured in a future round (I don’t know how often I’ll do these- maybe every two weeks or so?) So hang tight! Being featured in the column is a benefit to paid subscribers only, but viewing the column is free.

The personals ads do NOT discriminate based on age, race, or sexuality, in any direction. I also do not discriminate on looks, so if you aren’t chosen it has nothing to do with your suitability as a partner or your attractiveness. I simply can’t choose everyone because I want this to be a fairly curated group and not an endless scroll.

Last point: please remember to be respectful in the comments, and with any notes you send to the singles.

If you are on the fence about reaching out, REACH OUT! I will only keep doing these if the singles are getting any traction from them!

In case you missed it…

Last time, the personals featured women in Dallas, NYC and Charleston, and men in Atlanta, the UK, and Orange County. If you live in these areas, take a look and reach out!

Also, if you’re curious about a fake dating experience, you can submit photos (regardless of your relatioship status) to appear in my dating app simulator. If you’d rather swipe in the simulator, you can do that here. New photos will be uploaded regularly, but don’t take the survey more than once.

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Amanda, 31

Location: NYC. Open to relocating for the right person but strong preference for NYC-based men.

Interested in: Men age 29-36. She is strictly interested in monogamous relationships.

Occupation: Investment professional at credit fund

More about her: Her ideal physical “type” is dark-haired, boyish looks, square jaws, pale skin, and no height requirements (Hello, Chalamet! I promise she didn’t write this part.) She is 5’5” herself. She likes men who are high-openness, intellectually curious and ambitious. In her words, “You like going down Wikipedia rabbitholes, love author talks/speaker events, think taking writing class or course would be fun, spending hours in deep philosophical conversation across various topics is how you spend time with most friends (and want to within a relationship!)” She is very career-focused and ambitious and wants a partner who respects that her career is important to her, and she will do the same for him. For leisure time, she wants someone who will try new things with her. “Want to try the menu item that you've never heard of or seen before, love museums whether it's history or art, would do impromptu weekend road trip or flight to explore new city. (context: on my Big Five, my openness to experience is 97th percentile so limit doesn't really exist/apply here)” She says her “brain does not turn off” and she has been to 31 national parks.

Religious and/or Political views: She didn’t mention very specific religious or political dealbreakers, but she did mention a love of nature and the natural world. She has a deep sense of morality and wants to make the world a better place. As she puts it, “Being outdoors and in wilderness is sort of my personal happy place steeped in childhood nostalgia and profound peace / oneness with the universe. Don't necessarily need a partner to be 100% on the same page or have the same profundity but would need someone who deeply respects or appreciates this with some willingness to experience together.”

Future Dreams: On kids: “Ideally I would like to have children with my partner but I prioritize having high confidence that we are able to raise children well. This would include having a loving marriage, providing unconditional love / support to kids, wanting them to fail safely / build resilience, encouraging intellectual curiosity and ambition/excellence, making sure none of our own generational trauma passes to children (e.g. cycle-breakers). On the last point - this is maybe one of the most important points and would want a partner who deeply values this and would prioritize kids' wellbeing over me if needed as well as vice versa - but with the expectation that this will never be needed or come to pass (for reasons based in personal lore). Am open to partners who do not want kids or already have kids (but then other categories / compatibility must be high to offset.)”

She dreams of “having a meaningful career in finance (CFO, portfolio manager - possibly endowment fund officer or involved in sustainable finance) that allows me to travel often / spend part of year in Wyoming or Montana, fill free time with lots of hikes, skiing/snowboarding and mountaineering/climbs, host friends' families for dinner parties or ski weekends, be involved with / advocating for wilderness conservation effort (like NRDC) or other local community-based charities/causes and sponsor a scholarship fund.”

How to contact her: Twitter, @_amandaharris, or email amanda.chh.2025@gmail.com

Summer, 35

Location: Brooklyn, NY

Interested in: Men, 35-42

Occupation: She has her own consulting business. She works with tech companies mostly on automating their sales strategy.

More about her: She enjoys fitness and staying active, and wants a partner who does too. (Her ideal man is 5’10” or above, politically liberal, keeps up with politics and into volunteering, and wants a long-term relationship.) She likes singing and trained to be an opera singer in college. She describes herself as “Type A” and organized. She doesn’t drink alcohol. “I’m the type of person who has an idea and then goes for it - I believe that life is too short to “talk” about doing things or hope that something will one day happen. I love to try new restaurants, travel to new countries and learn more about the world, human nature and what we’re all doing here.”

Religious and/or Political views: She’s politically liberal. She didn’t specify religion, but in her words, “I care about building a world that is more empathetic, compassionate and inclusive to everyone. I do my best to lead with an open heart and ultimately hope that I can spend the rest of my time on this earth trying to create positive impact. While that’s changed over the years, the current way I’m doing that is through volunteering with the Sierra Club’s youth division (the ICO) which takes kids from NYC on outdoor trips, organizing with Sister District, an organization that helps elect democratic reps to state houses in swing states, and singing in a local choir. I believe that art, community and action are the keys to a fulfilling and meaningful life.”

Future Dreams: She doesn’t want biological children and wants her partner to be on the same page. Her ideal setup is “to have an apartment in New York and a house in Santa Fe, New Mexico where we spend ~6 months in each place. I’d love to have an annual week-long trip with all of our friends somewhere international and then spend another month outside of the US exploring. I would love our home(s) to always be a place friends can come and stay or just drop in unannounced for a cup of coffee. I also have a dream to own a small inn or retro motor lodge at some point in the future!”

How to contact her: By email, at sdlindman@gmail.com

Chris, 31

Location: NYC (Queens) but willing to “commute for love.”

Interested in: Women. He didn’t mention an age range (I would assume somewhere around his age?) but he did offer the following: “Amy Santiago types, irritable politicos, doctoral candidates with obscure academic grudges. Drawn to women who tend to win arguments. Still waiting on a call back from Ms. Piggy. Hoping to find someone curious about the world and who enjoys finding new ways to look at it.”

Occupation: Organizing events and grant reporting for a university cybersecurity group. Masters in international security studies. Reassessing career trajectory in light of recent events.

More about him: He describes himself as a “Hobbit-at-heart postgrad” who “seeks opinionated loudmouth to teach him something new.” His natural habitat is the Met Cloisters. He likes conversations about “international politics, gender/sexuality, your hyper-fixations, and religious history.” He also enjoys D&D and fiction. He’s extroverted, and neurodivergent (aren’t all CHH readers?)

Religious and/or Political views: He is politically liberal and pescatarian. “Sober, but still into cozy bars. Atheist, religion nerd. Would like to settle down & have kid(s), some day. The 1995 Pride and Prejudice > 2005, but mostly I rewatch Bridget Jones.”

Future Dreams: He had the most amusing future dream setup so far: “Ms. Maisel’s apartment. I’m Tony Shalhoub; you’re Alex Borstein. New York is affordable enough that we are both adequately clothed and fed. We’re middle aged, and our adult daughter works in applied cybernetics in some promising corner of the reigning government. We are disgustingly in love. We have both, finally, read every book in our apartment, and we are going out for sushi to complain about them.”

How to contact him: on Bluesky at @not-my-full-name.bsky.social, or via email at something.other.than.my.full.name@gmail.com

JoCo, 29

Location: Minneapolis, MN (Long distance is fine for the right person)

Interested in: Women ages 24-35 give-or-take.

Occupation: He is management analyst for the Minneapolis Civil Rights Department. He primarily provides research and policy support to the Minneapolis Police for the implementation of the post-George Floyd Consent Decree and Settlement Agreement.

More About Him: He's big on public policy research and evaluation, plays some video games (a lot of Monster Hunter as of late), and has some interest in sports, mainly baseball. He values patience and curiosity - doesn't everyone? - and has been trying to get into cardio to stay in slightly better shape. He has Avoidant Personality Disorder so can seem a bit awkward and is pretty bad at asking questions, so would work best with someone with a more dominant personality who is comfortable talking AT him (he's listening he promises!) He’s a little under 5'8" if height is important to you, but does not care how tall you are.

Religious and/or Political Views: He is Atheist but it's not important to him. Open to all faiths and not judgemental about faith. Politically you can probably consider him to be on the Left, but his job requires him to be fully non-partisan and so he does not engage in any partisan political activity.

Future Dreams: He wants to get married and have a kid or two at some point. He is very much a homebody but is open to some travel. He really wants someone who is his best friend and who can drag him out of the apartment. His work and his impact on the community is extremely important to him, so early retirement, long times away from work, or moving out of the city (whatever city he happens to be able to find a job working for, he's lived across the US) is not in the cards.

How to contact him: by email at jocomicallef@gmail.com

Or, 31

Location: Chicago, IL (He’s open to long distance if the woman lives in NYC, since he is considering moving there.)

Interested in: Women aged 25-35, age range is fuzzy and not firm.

Occupation: He left a cushy software engineering job to pursue a PhD in statistics, which is what he’s doing now. His post-graduation plan is to enter the quantitative finance industry.

More about him: He will “remember your birthday, your cousin's gecko's birthday and any other minute detail you drop. I may need help in telling whether you want sympathy or a solution, but would always like to know which it is.” He is skilled at all things cooking and meal preparation, from baking to cocktail artistry. Or’s ideal partner is a woman who is kind, intellectually curious and rationally optimistic. He likes slow mornings and “content-dense podcasts.” He doesn’t have a strict physical type, but he does like preppy or clean-cut aesthetics as opposed to alternative or Goth looks.

Religious and/or Political views: He was raised as a Secular Jew but is now an atheist. However, he’s open to dating women of all religious affiliations. He identifies as libertarian with a few neoconservative components, but is open to all political affiliations, as long as they’re not on the far end of the spectrum in either direction.

Future Dreams: He’s open to a life with or without children, but if he has children, he would want more than one. He’s also open to all pets except dogs. His ideal future setup is “a townhouse in the LES/East Village/Gramercy Park area with a room or two more than we might need. I am the much-maligned urbanite and would be happy to have that as my home base.”

How to contact him: His email is orgoldreich@gmail.com. His instagram is @or.goldreich.

Luke, 24

Location: Aurora, Colorado (anywhere within an 8-hour drive of Denver- he would drive to visit a partner.)

Interested in: Women, 20-29

Occupation: city fleet mechanic (he does oil changes on municipal work trucks.)

More about him: He has a variety of interests, from anthropology and political science to world building and engineering. He also gets obsessed with random obscure topics (right now it’s quantum physics.) In his words, “I like to visit museums and walk around small towns, usually alone but it's my favorite thing to do with my friends. I am dedicated, loyal, determined, and always willing to help out. I love cats, but am indifferent to dogs.” He doesn’t have physical dealbreakers but does look for a certain type of personality. “My ideal partner loves road trips, walking around cities, museums, and working on art or writing. She's well read and very knowledgeable in a wide range of topics. She likes trying new restaurants. I have no preferences on physical appearance, personality is what matters to me.”

He wants a long-term relationship, ideally ending in marriage. If he were to enter into a relationship with someone new, he would like a relationship where there’s frequent contact (texting daily, for example) but he understands sometimes people get busy and can’t always find the time to text.

Religious and/or Political views: He has left-wing politics and is childfree.

Future Dreams: He doesn’t want children. “My dream setup would be to live in a house in a city full of people who shared my values and interests, with good public transit and decent sized communities for every possible interest I have.”

How to contact him: His Snapchat, Instagram, and Discord username is Rovinion.