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I’ll be honest, I did not expect to get five dollars worth of reading out of this subscription but I really really do

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I swear reading your substack sometimes feels like looking into a mirror. I also have “pure OCD” which went undetected during my teen years and early 20s. For many years, I was terrified I was secretly trans, because I couldn’t “prove” that I knew my gender identity. It was absolute hell and I shrank into myself, crying myself to sleep every night, trying different masculine voices to check if they “fit” - and this was all something that I couldn’t even begin to explain to friends (I had and have no problem with trans people at all!) I knew people wouldn’t understand.

Like you, I found forums and this led to extremely toxic, late night reassurance seeking. Eventually, my obsessions shifted and I began to see a CBT specialist which helped a lot. One thing that no one talks about with OCD is what to do when one of your obsessions comes true. I was worried about infertility for a year or two, and then - I couldn’t conceive and had to do fertility treatments. That was a real mind fuck. I have to remind myself every day that I didn’t cause it nor did I “predict” it.

Not sure where I’m going with this, except to say thank you for this post! I’ve really enjoyed subscribing and many of your posts really resonate.

Signed, an early 30s soon to be mom who also daydreamed about being a melancholy Victorian waif, struggles with making new friends, has zero passion for any of my jobs, and probably has ADHD to boot

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