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Pam B's avatar

The most important reason these women do what they do on social media: they get paid to do it! You don't get paid (usually) in real life to be a mom. The unseen labor of household help (cleaning the house, watching the kids while filming, childcare while research is done/videos are edited, etc) and the money to pay for it looms over these videos. It's easy to say "take what you want and leave the rest", but that's the best I can come up with.

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Myriam Abla's avatar

I do think people on social media should do a better job of not assuming that just because they made one choice for their baby doesn't mean that every other choice is terrible, though. It goes like this: people's temperaments, life circumstances, etc might make it so that other choices are better for them. You don't have to defend why, e.g., cosleeping is the best choice under every possible circumstance. In fact, through a simple exercise of the imagination, you can probably think of how if some things in your life were different, you would do things differently. The dogmatic attachment to one's minute parenting decisions isn't ultimately about the children; it's about the parents proving themselves as better than everyone else.

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