Why Doesn't Hillary Clinton Have a 25 Year Old Boyfriend?

The question absolutely everyone is thinking about

Perhaps you’ve started your Tuesday by finishing up some heads-down tasks at work, grabbing a cup of coffee, or playing with your children. But most likely, the entire time you were thinking what I know everyone thinks about from the moment they wake up to the moment they fall asleep at night: why doesn’t Hillary Clinton have a 25-year-old boyfriend?

Obviously, I’m not just talking about Hillary Clinton. I’m talking about wealthy, powerful older women in general. Age gap relationships (let’s say, 10+ years) are rarer than Reddit’s r/relationships would have us think. Marriage statistics bear this out, with the vast majority of married couples within five years of each other’s ages. Larger age gaps (20+ or even 30+ years) are exceedingly rare. But when they do happen, the older party is almost always male.

This statistic functions as a bit of an ink blot test. Heavily online single women, repeatedly told by the manosphere that no man would ever want them past the age of thirty-five (or heck, twenty-five!) will find it affirming, considering on average, most women want to marry someone around their own age. Those same manosphere guys are quick to either discredit the statistic with the following arguments:

• “This is only marriage- these are the cucked betas who women settled for, in reality all of those women were getting railed by all the fifty-year-old Chads in the club bathroom before they got hitched.”

• “This statistic shows that age gap marriages are very common, because when I said “age gap” I was actually talking about gaps of five years, not twenty. (Ignore all those tweets where I said men hit their sexual peak at fifty.)”

I think everyone, regardless of political affiliation, can agree on a few things, though:

1. Most marriages are between people close in age.

2. Age gap relationships are usually an older man, and a younger woman.

The question is: why? Not so much, why would a younger woman date an older man, but why aren’t younger men dating older women?

Of course, younger men and older women do date from time to time—but not nearly as often, as this poll appropriately conducted on behalf of “Cougar Life” indicates. Basically, age gap relationships are more common in dating than in marriage, but the same pattern exists: they’re more likely to be an older man and a younger woman.

Many men might think that the obvious answer is “because older men are more attractive than older women” but I would actually argue that’s not the case. Many age-gap relationships (of, say, fifteen years) are built on genuine attraction. But others—the really outrageous ones, the billionaire on his sixth wife or 80-year old rockstar with his Gen Z girlfriend—are more transactional. The man is providing money and status to the woman, who is benefitting from that in exchange for sex and perhaps doing a great job of making it seem like she’s genuinely physically attracted. I’m not judging, by the way! Have at it as long as everyone is consenting! But there’s a huge difference between the relationship that might exist between a fifty-five-year-old man and a forty-year-old woman, where there is genuine attraction in both directions, and that same relationship if the woman is twenty, especially considering women are typically most attracted to men around their own age. Let’s not forget the sacred graph of OKCupid:

Of course, outliers exist. But this isn’t about the outliers. This is about why, on the whole, we see older wealthy men with young girlfriends and not the reverse nearly as often. Because I’m sure someone will point this out too, the reverse of that infamous chart is that men, no matter how old they get, consistently rate women in their twenties as being the best-looking. But that’s hardly discordant with what I’m trying to say here, at worst it’s irrelevant, and you’ll see why.

I decided to do my very own unscientific poll. I asked my followers on Twitter if they would be open to a transactional sexual relationship with someone twenty-five years their senior. And what do you know: men were more likely to be open to it than women were.

I upped the ante. What about if it was 35 years? Men and women were both roughly as uninterested in this one.

Now let’s take money out of the equation. What about a regular, everyday age gap relationship that isn’t explicitly a sugar baby arrangement, and the gap is more realistic? Not surprisingly, this option was far more appealing than both of the previous options. However, men were more interested in this scenario than women, which flies directly in the face of the real-world statistics showing that this relationship actually often involves a younger woman, not a younger man:

And now, the poll that confirms my hypothesis. Flipping the script, how open are you to being the older person in the relationship? Would you be open to dating someone 15-20 years younger?

Unsurprisingly, men were pretty open to this idea! But women were overwhelmingly uninterested. This is the first scenario I posed in which the difference between men and women was significant:

And there we have it. Older wealthy women are not unattractive or unappealing to young men. If anything, young men are more interested in those arrangements than young women! But you know what older women are? NOT INTERESTED.

That’s right. Older women are not the rejects of the dating pool—they’re the ones doing the rejection. While there might be an occasional cougar out there, showing some leg at the yacht club and making eyes at the bright-eyed towelboy, the vast majority of older women simply do not want this kind of arrangement, even if it’s not explicitly transactional.

This doesn’t mean that a woman in her sixties is every young man’s first choice. Only that the demand for a wealthy sugar mama, or even a not-wealthy cougar girlfriend, outweighs the supply.

I know what you’re thinking: CHH, how can that be true? Time and time again, men express their preference for younger women! Why would anyone want an older girlfriend?

I may allow some Cougar Enjoyer to interrupt me on this one, because far be it for me, a heterosexual woman in a same-age relationship, to speculate. But there are two key points to consider:

1. I’m talking about dating, not marriage. For marriage, significantly older women aren’t as likely to be an option for younger men, especially younger men who want to have children, for obvious reasons. Given the statistics about age gap marriage vs. dating, the same is true of younger women—they would be more likely to date a significantly older man in a casual relationship than they would be to marry one.

2. Men cast wider nets than women do. Perhaps this is because women take on more inherent risk with every new partner and thus are programmed to be more selective. Maybe it’s because younger women are more likely to be thinking about their biological clock and less likely to want to “waste” their twenties or thirties on novelty relationships (before anyone yells at me in defense of casual dating, it’s only a waste if you feel like it is! I just have a feeling women are more likely to be selective on this basis than men because, unfortunately, we do have a shorter reproductive window and unlike men, we are constantly reminded of it.)

I posed this hypothesis on Twitter a while ago, and several men informed me I was wrong about Hillary Clinton (or Nancy Pelosi, or any powerful wealthy woman) having her choice of young attractive men. They argued that these men wouldn’t really be attracted, they’d just be doing it for money. But I argue that in the case of 40 year age gaps, that’s the case for the young women too. I believe older women (and women in general) are more likely to be repulsed by the idea of paying for false sexual or romantic attention than men.

Perhaps this is because women have been conditioned to see ourselves as the object of desire, not the person desiring. If I were single, I would vastly prefer a man my age or a bit older who genuinely found me attractive, compared with a twenty-year-old model who was only with me for my 25,000 Twitter followers and sick poasting. There is something very viscerally repulsive to me about anyone having a sexual encounter with me that they do not genuinely derive pleasure from. Consider this unscientific poll:

While men might prefer that a woman genuinely desire them compared with lack of genuine desire, they don’t see lack of genuine desire as a dealbreaker (as long as consent is obtained, I hope anyway.) Women, on the other hand, often do see a lack of genuine desire as a dealbreaker. This is hardly universal, but most women are unable to enjoy romantic or sexual situations in which the man isn’t really that into it, regardless of whether he’s consenting. It’s possible that even if a younger man is genuinely attracted to an older women, it might not feel that way to her—she might feel like she’s being used or that there’s some kind of transaction going on, which sours the idea to her.

Consider men and women’s fantasies in erotica or porn—women’s fantasies often include men who are overwhelmed with their passion and desire for the woman (see the oft-used term for romance novels, bodice rippers.) While men may fantasize about aggressive women, porn is rife with examples of shy women being seduced (and ultimately giving consent after said seduction). Generally, women’s sexual fantasies do not include shy, soft-spoken men who have to be coaxed into sex. In fact, such a scenario might actively repulse most women.

While we’re on the topic of fantasies, consider the infamous “Nigerian love scams” and how they differ when targeted at men vs. women. Love scams targeted at men often include fake profiles of gorgeous women in their twenties. The same strategy doesn’t work on female victims—instead, the profiles that intend to scam lonely older women are of handsome but realistic men their own age. Women are simply not interested in being the older, less attractive one in their relationship.

Of course, I can’t definitively prove this—and I’m sure people will be quick to correct me that their personal experience invalidates what I’m saying. But I’m speaking about generalizations, and in general, women have more distaste for “phony desire” than men do. This could also explain why men enjoy strip clubs more than women do, but women’s fantasies come to life in erotica or smut, where they can fantasize without the concern about another party masking their indifference (or worse, revulsion.)

There’s another consideration, which I haven’t mentioned so far and that’s the oft-repeated statement that “young men aren’t attractive.” This simply isn’t true. Young men are society’s male models, hunky actors and boy band singers. Your average man is more objectively good-looking at twenty-five than at forty. Manosphere influencers downplay this fact because their entire strategy hinges on becoming more valuable with age while women decrease in value, but if your endgame is casual dating or sex and not marriage, the unfortunate truth for red pillers is that women always hold the cards. Men will always want more casual sex than women will (on the whole, not individually) and men will always have a wider berth of women they would accept than the reverse. Sorry, I don’t make the rules!

So there you have it, folks. If Hillary Clinton wants a twenty-five-year-old boytoy, all she has to do is sign up for Bumble (I’ve been told they had a great ad campaign recently.) But I’m assuming she has other stuff to do.