Everyone Without My Sexual Tastes Is Virtue-Signaling
People marry people they find attractive? You’re telling me this now for the first time.
Last week, I wrote about the idea that straight men’s physical preferences for women’s bodies aren’t as extreme as some people think—basically, while there are men out there who think the maximized proportions of Kim Kardashian, or an anime character, is the pinnacle of female beauty, your average guy will find that to be a bit much for a real-life partner. Beyond the basics, a lot of preferences are down to specific “type,” not a universal ideal. That doesn’t mean all guys prefer less extreme curves, just that there’s more variety than one might think and when a financially well-off guy with options deviates from “blonde anime Kardashian” he is not, in fact, “virtue signaling.”
But some pushback I got—which I’ve seen before—is that you can’t trust how men respond to surveys (including the many reputable ones done, which show a distinct difference in average ideals between men of different socioeconomic statuses) because even anonymously, wealthier men feel pressured to claim to like less extreme curves than they actually like. I’ve been told that upper middle class men dating women with slender “Pilates” type bodies (which is a clear pattern but not a universal thing) is a gigantic prank they’re playing on us (and themselves, apparently!) because they actually like huge breast implants and BBLs, and just don’t want to sound unseemly. This is, apparently, a stated versus revealed preference.
And that’s awfully convenient, because if you ignore all statistics and real-life behaviors as pointless virtue-signaling, you can claim anything is the revealed preference. I hereby declare that nobody actually likes One Battle After Another and it was all virtue-signaling and everyone’s favorite movie is actually You, Me and Dupree.
(I am not implying that any woman’s body is equivalent to You, Me and Dupree.)
The main piece of evidence given to suggest that men’s preferences are near-universal and any variation we notice is mere virtue-signaling: just look at men’s anime porn histories and the body types of the sex dolls they customize. That is apparently the revealed preference, and men are just too chicken shit to admit it in real life. This was also the argument put forth by the famous (and mostly correct) J Sanilac blog post, Dispelling Beauty Lies, which inspired the article to which I was responding last week. He focused very heavily on digitally-generated porn characters, sex dolls and other digitally customized women used for masturbatory purposes, and then made the conclusion that real-life women should get breast implants so they can look more like these characters for the purpose of finding a husband.
