I once translated a short story about a guy wanting anal and the title was something like "To Troy, Helen!" (The main character's name was Helen, or rather Elena, bc the story was Spanish) and that seemed so, so cheesy to me
Like. I was just looking through old emails trying to find link to story and discovered that I had actually written to a woman acquaintance asking if anybody has ever said "let's go to Troy" like the male character in the story does, because I could not believe it. She never replied though, so I still don't know.
That tweet on older women not keeping up with the discourse is so bizarre. I don't think she's talking about keeping up with scholarship from feminist academics. The idea that the self-selected portion of people on Twitter are driving culture shows such a lack of self-awareness.
Yes, I’d love to see a CHH take on this, as well. From everything I’ve heard and read, actual lesbians HATE being the “experiment” for straight women. It’s a byword for heartbreak and drama.
Weirdly enough I was friends with a lesbian who did hate the idea of "political lesbians" and saw it as ridiculous. Then she became a TERF and was suddenly cool with it.
As a bisexual woman, I did once go on a date with a woman who later said (on the date) that she has no interest in having sex with women or being in a relationship with them yet continued to identify as a "proud bisexual" whenever Pride came around. I'm generally very open to people identifying as whatever they want but that incident really annoyed me.
Two thoughts: 1) Increasingly, lots of conversation on sex online seems like it's being driven by people who've never had sex with a real human? The most egregious are the online Masculinity Influencers on Elon's Racist Trash Heap, but a lot of people talking about the inherently oppressive nature of types of sex seem to fall into that particular bucket.
2) On the general state of the public sphere. I am an Old Fart. I largely stay on Twitter even after it became what it is now out of force of habit, but it's, idk, kind of unrepresentative of the culture at large anymore? And Bluesky is forty-year-old Tumblrinas. So... where is the actual New, Fresh Stuff happening? I'd assume that for the last few years it's been The TikToks, but I'm too much of an old fart to be on TikTok. I was wondering if it would be possible to have some sort of CHH feature that looks at what the up-and-coming tastemakers are doing.
On your second question, I don't think there really is a space like that anymore. Even if young people are on tiktok, everything on there is too ephemeral to last longer than five minutes.
Yes, really. There’s an entire genre of AI slop featuring strawberries cheating on their husbands with eggplants, or fruit husbands disgusted with their fruit wives for farting. Welcome to the AI future! EPCOT never dreamed of this!
I came across this somewhere online once: “because it feels good” really is a good enough reason for him to ask you to do it. I generally agree. Obviously it goes both ways and applies to both sexual and non-sexual activities - like if your wife wants you take the family apple picking “because she thinks she will enjoy it”, then she should ask for it!
I happen to agree with the girls that a lot of anal sex when you’re young is coerced/convinced by young men who’ve watched too much porn. But the way they’re phrasing this sucks. And the inclusion of oral which is one of the great pleasures of sex is dumb.
I remember reading about research on the danger of anal for women. It’s still worth considering, but it looks like it was actually an opinion survey (of doctors):
Can we circle back to it apparently being Israeli to like anal sex? Surely it's Greek!
Not in this house it isn't!
I once translated a short story about a guy wanting anal and the title was something like "To Troy, Helen!" (The main character's name was Helen, or rather Elena, bc the story was Spanish) and that seemed so, so cheesy to me
So did the guy remember to wear a Trojan?
we can only hope, the story does not mention protection.
Like. I was just looking through old emails trying to find link to story and discovered that I had actually written to a woman acquaintance asking if anybody has ever said "let's go to Troy" like the male character in the story does, because I could not believe it. She never replied though, so I still don't know.
https://wordswithoutborders.org/read/article/2012-04/to-troy-helen/
Looking forward to “ethics of tittyfucking” being offered as a philosophy course at Oberlin
That tweet on older women not keeping up with the discourse is so bizarre. I don't think she's talking about keeping up with scholarship from feminist academics. The idea that the self-selected portion of people on Twitter are driving culture shows such a lack of self-awareness.
It kinda pursues the mindset of “it’s not my job to educate you” to its logical endpoint.
Something notable about the movie: Aham is not a very good actor, even when playing Aham.
I nearly died from laughing at the sex discourse. That's some pure old school twitter I used to love.
Right? I really missed this.
These Progressive Twitter types are making staunch Catholics like me seem sexually liberated and for that I am grateful
I wonder how actual lesbians feel about straight women who switch teams strictly out of hatred for men.
I’ve actually talked to several lesbians who experienced dating women like this and it was horrible lol
Can you please write an article about this
Yes, I’d love to see a CHH take on this, as well. From everything I’ve heard and read, actual lesbians HATE being the “experiment” for straight women. It’s a byword for heartbreak and drama.
Weirdly enough I was friends with a lesbian who did hate the idea of "political lesbians" and saw it as ridiculous. Then she became a TERF and was suddenly cool with it.
As a bisexual woman, I did once go on a date with a woman who later said (on the date) that she has no interest in having sex with women or being in a relationship with them yet continued to identify as a "proud bisexual" whenever Pride came around. I'm generally very open to people identifying as whatever they want but that incident really annoyed me.
Two thoughts: 1) Increasingly, lots of conversation on sex online seems like it's being driven by people who've never had sex with a real human? The most egregious are the online Masculinity Influencers on Elon's Racist Trash Heap, but a lot of people talking about the inherently oppressive nature of types of sex seem to fall into that particular bucket.
2) On the general state of the public sphere. I am an Old Fart. I largely stay on Twitter even after it became what it is now out of force of habit, but it's, idk, kind of unrepresentative of the culture at large anymore? And Bluesky is forty-year-old Tumblrinas. So... where is the actual New, Fresh Stuff happening? I'd assume that for the last few years it's been The TikToks, but I'm too much of an old fart to be on TikTok. I was wondering if it would be possible to have some sort of CHH feature that looks at what the up-and-coming tastemakers are doing.
On your second question, I don't think there really is a space like that anymore. Even if young people are on tiktok, everything on there is too ephemeral to last longer than five minutes.
Maybe everything they know about sex comes from those AI videos featuring cheating, flatulent fruits: https://www.nytimes.com/2026/03/24/style/ai-cheating-fruit-slop-videos-tiktok.html?unlocked_article_code=1.W1A._1XJ.IMvfwe_JmEvp&smid=url-share (gift article)
Yes, really. There’s an entire genre of AI slop featuring strawberries cheating on their husbands with eggplants, or fruit husbands disgusted with their fruit wives for farting. Welcome to the AI future! EPCOT never dreamed of this!
I came across this somewhere online once: “because it feels good” really is a good enough reason for him to ask you to do it. I generally agree. Obviously it goes both ways and applies to both sexual and non-sexual activities - like if your wife wants you take the family apple picking “because she thinks she will enjoy it”, then she should ask for it!
Nothing on the inherent dangers of cunnilingus? Tongue-sprain is a thing, you know...
Didn't Michael Douglas claim it gave him throat cancer? See not so safe now is it
Apparently this is actually possible? Via HPV infection. Very rare though.
I happen to agree with the girls that a lot of anal sex when you’re young is coerced/convinced by young men who’ve watched too much porn. But the way they’re phrasing this sucks. And the inclusion of oral which is one of the great pleasures of sex is dumb.
Twitter people are so bizarre.
For anyone interested, that Döner Kebab is right next door to the UCB theater and the source of endless suggestions for improv.
Thank you for keeping up with all this so I don't have to
I remember reading about research on the danger of anal for women. It’s still worth considering, but it looks like it was actually an opinion survey (of doctors):
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/40817997/
Reflecting on blowjobs — a great memoir title